Lately, I have been invited to many weddings of friends and relatives. The calendar for September is practically packed with weddings. I am really looking forward to them as it is a happy occasion and because how much these people who are getting married mean to me. :)
Then, I ponder. When will mine be?
Marriage to me is a very important milestone in ones life. It is a decision to share your life with that special someone in good and bad times. Living with that person all your life and sharing things together is not easy. However, it must be that burning desire to be with that someone, a certain degree of understanding, trust, loyalty and respect that will overcome the challenges of married life. Fundamentally the most important of all is communication.
Communication should be borderless! In a relationship, each should be given the right to talk and to listen. If there is something bothering you, the topic should be openned up for discussion. Also, we should listen and be open to proactive comments or criticism. Criticism should never be viewed as a bad thing or as a weapon to be used against anyone. It should be taken as a form of constructive feedback to develop someone personally and professionally.
However, there may not be an ideal scenario of both individuals agreeing with what each other says. I feel it is fair and it should be respected. We are all different and so are our views on life. There is no right nor wrong. It is a matter of accepting each other and loving them for what they are. Give and take is important. There may be somethings your partner is lacking in but you have it as an advantage. Great! That is the attraction and I honestly believe that this is what consolidates a relationship.
The time would be ideal to marry when the time is right. When? When both agree that he and she is ready for this communion of two individuals. It has to be made clear so that no one is offended in the relationship.
As individuals, our mental and emotional growth varies. Each of us have needs that we want to achieve in life. It is undoubted that career, education background, family or possessions are some of these elements that we aspire to achieve or to have. These are some of the reasons that weddings are put-off or postponed to a more suitable time. It is not strange but only human that such of this reasons exist.
Life is short and the chance we have is only one. The time that we have to achieve so much is crazy and is never perfect. Never perfect in the sense that with these goals in place, obstacles will always exist that may prevent or postpone us from achieving them. These goals that we have set, can be seen as things that enriches our life and makes it meaningful to us. That goal may differ from one another but it should be seen as something that brings happiness and satisfaction.
Age is no barrier. God has planned our lives so perfectly that when it is meant to be, it will be but in His time. Sometimes that perfect partner is 10 years different in age. So what? Has long there is a union and love for each other, it should be harmonized.
Religion should also be no barrier. There are so many great and compatible people for each other but are only different in religious values only. As for this, one should analyze this thoroughly, to see how will religion impact them. Would there need to be a conversion or a mutual understanding for each others beliefs? Also, to consider are the repercussions of the decisions made on that person and the family institution as a result of difference in religion.
It is so sad to see married couples divorced and separating. It is deffinitely taboo in my culture and family background. The word divorce should never come up in a married relationship! I feel sick to see people desecrate this sacred act and to not respect what it stands for. For example, Britney Spears on the story of her marriages on E! channel. If one does not understand or is not ready, then don't do it! Never be forced in marriage or to do something against your will.
To summarize, it is deffinitely exciting to get married! To seal the deal with that special person whom you adore greatly. :) Marriage is part of life and is highly looked upon in any culture or religious sector. It is about the promise of being together with each other on this earthly world and a declaration for that responsibility and duty to hold, to care and provide for that person and to bring up children together as active parents!
I want to get married. ;)
