Can I be honest?

Honesty sometimes can be risky. This with regards to friendship can test the strength and closeness of the friendship. It is never easy.

You know a friend like too well and fear that being honest is gonna create a confrontation in a friendship. The friend may just like freak-out or even be offended just because you tried to be honest.

So there are ppl who keep it to themselves in fear that it would complicate things with their best friend. Sorry... I dun think it is a pro-active approach(yeah, only now I can say it... lol).

The best is to get it out in the open. The good, the bad and the ugly. Sometimes friends surpress how they feel to someone and in the end the other friend dunno sh*t what's going on.

If your not happy about something with the person, just say it. But say it nicely. Be open! That would be the best way rather than to keep anger and frustration inside. No one knows how you feel until you actually tell that person.


People often say that they can take honesty at no extra cost but in the end feel offended and upset with the person who spoke to them.

Could it be the way the message is conveyed? Feeling a little "understanding" to the situation, empathatic and the feeling of "I really wanna help you" should be applied.

They say that only your friends will tell u the truth because they care and they want to help you. Ur enemy could not be bothered and would like to see u in the pitts.

Being a listener of a friend being honest, interpretating the message can be a subjective thingy; no right or wrong.

It all depends how a friend can take it. Sometimes if interpreted, the message could have been sent by someone who cares or means something to you. Otherwise, it could be seen as your invading my privacy----> tension ----- > piss off.

I sometimes have been told by my friends and somehow get upset at what they say. Haven't we all? But I guess they care and it may sound like just human-nature to yell. But there intention could be quite clear in helping you. It may be some sought of advise to improve or just their way of conveying the message.

I guess in life, it's good to look at things in general positively. If everything was bad, life would be so demotivating and nothing to look forward to. But in the end, it's all human nature. Everyone has growing feelings and personalities.