Beer time!

I was chatting with Banyen the other day in the office and it occured to us how long we had not gone out for a drink.

So decided to check out this beer place @ banana leaf curry house in Tg Bungah. The invitation was extended to Peter Loh @ Ah Tat, Christine Lim, Carie and Melvyn. Yup all from Dell.

I was too malas to drive and asked Banyen come fetch me in her Wira at 8 pm. The new Wira SE is rather impressive in terms of build-up quality and looks. Supposed to fetch Chris but she cancel coz not well. You really missed out on the fun lah Chris!

Arrived at the place and saw Vendas and Shoba sitting with a bucket of Tiger. But where was Peter? Peter had just gone toilet coz someone decided to start drinking without us. :P

Took a seat for a while and Peter ordered Indalo wine. Indalo is from South Africa and retails for about RM 40. Not bad drink and lightens the mood! :D

Vendas and Banyen started talking and realized both came from Pulau Tikus kampung and they knew of all the historical moments and good times! I never felt lost as I could certainly relate to what they were talking about and about those particular times.

It was so fun talking and laughing. Basically talking crap.

Then we started talking about American politics and wondered where was the Ah Moh Kau buaya(Mark) was as he is really into American politics. He is a McCain supporter. Speaking of the devil he showed up with Ming, his new "friend" who had really red hair! Chinese girl with dyed red hair! No photos but can imagine lah guys. Lol!

We all got kinda high and out of no where Ah Tat got excited about Banyen's Wira SE. He asked her if can test drive and she happily gave the keys! Being a previous owner of a Wira 1.6 I certainly knew the feeling of a Wira! Revs and wheels spins!

Ah Tat was driver, Banyen was co and I was seated behind trying to play cool! When Ah Tat got permission to "test" the car I buckled up coz I knew what was about to happen.

Wheels were spinning at the Tg Bungah Hotel traffic light. Windows were all down coz all were smoking up and so was the tyres of the car! I could smell burnt smell coming from the wheel spin that Ah Tat did. We were blazing fast, taking corners and cutting in and out. Really cucuk a Merz bumper! Hell it's Ah Tat man! Trusted him with my life! Banyen was quiet initally or trying to act cool and had that I am not worried look. :P

Ah Tat had really good time with the car doing his thing and testing it like those car reviewers from Top Gear. I think Ah Tat should send his review in on the Wira as I am sure they have yet to test it yet. Haha!

Got back to the place, had a few more glasses of wine and they got started on playing dunno what cards. I was enjoying the moment while standing and having trouble balancing. Haha! I was high but happy! Kind of like sucked into a moment where I could forget my worries and fears! That feel good high feeling! Haha!

Left the place around 11.15pm as next day was working day.

Oh yeah, guess what? Ah Tat went MC the next day! Shhhhh...

Colbie Caillat - Realize (Dedicated to that special someone)

Artist: Colbie Caillat lyrics
Album: Other Song Lyrics
Title: Realize


V1: Take time to realize,
That your warmth is.
Crashing down on in.
Take time to realize,
That I am on your side
Didn't I, Didn't I tell you.

But I can't spell it out for you,
No it's never gonna be that simple
No I cant spell it out for you

C: If you just realize what I just realized,
Then we'd be perfect for each other
and will never find another
Just realized what I just realized
we'd never have to wonder if we missed out on each other now.

V2: Take time to realize
Oh-oh I'm on your side
didn't I, didn't I tell you.
Take time to realize
This all can pass you by..
Didn't I tell you

But I can't spell it out for you,
no its never gonna be that simple
no I can't spell it out for you.

C: If you just realized what I just realized
then we'd be perfect for each other then we'd never find another
Just realized what I just realized
we'd never have to wonder if we missed out on each other now.

V3: It's not always the same
no it's never the same if you don't feel it to.
If you meet me half wayIf you would meet me half way.
It could be the same for you.

C: If you just realized what I just realized
then we'd be perfect for each other then we'd never find another
Just realized what I just realized
we'd never have to wonder
Just realized what I just realized

OoOoOOo
missed out on each other now
missed out on each other now

Cherish your partner

Love brought us together and love will keep us together!

The beauty in life is that each one of us is never alone and we get to share our life with a special someone. Happiness and sadness are part of this relationship that unites two individuals in body and soul. It is founded by a connection that is abstractly tied and that sometimes when there is a moment of silence, only the heart speaks and nothing else does! Very deep!

This connection should be irrespective of anything physical (sex, race, religion, wealth)but more towards feelings from the heart.

Always be honest with your partner. Tell them how you feel and why you are honest.The simple reason is that you do not want to hide anything or to see them get hurt. Honesty can sometimes come at a cost! People accept honesty in various ways. Some appreciate while others freak out. It may be difficult for your partner to accept the harshness in the truth, but deep inside you will feel good because when it came to honesty, you did your best to be honest. It is good to be honest because you really care for that someone and your partner should appreciate that and realize it.

When your partner is sad, be there and accompany your partner. You may not have the right thing to say but your presence and being a listener makes a difference during this difficult moment. Just listen and understand what your partner is going through and do emphatize. Be a source of support and a shoulder to cry on. If your partner ask you a question during that sad moment, answer it base on how you would approach it and from a general perspective. Not everyone thinks alike and may not accept your answer as a solution to the question.

When your partner is mad at you, listen as there may be something you did not realize or overlooked that has hurt your partner. Apologize if necessary, reason with logic and explain what you feel. Sometimes we accidentally make people mad without intention. However, if you explain your stand I am sure no one can be mad at you and will respect you for that. We are only human people! God never constructed two individuals to be perfectly equal in every way. Accept that there is a difference and give and take. When you give to your partner, make sure your partner knows how to give back if not speak up! Clear the air. We can never be blind followers. Encapsulationg how you feel in the long run is bad because bottled feelings may suddenly erupt out of no where someday leaving your partner confused and may impact the beauty in the relationship! :S Always work things out with the objective of improving the relationship and bringing each other closer. :D I like to see both partners putting in effort towards restoring the connection that unites them. Forgive and forget the past because your relationship is much more meaningful than that tiny inequality.

Love your partner and only your partner. When you tell someone you love them, mean it! Stop going telling ten other people you love them when you are actually confused about your love life or just too desperate of getting someone in your life. When you deal with people, you deal with feelings. Everyone has feelings and you should respect that. You must understand how others feel and are going to accept when you screw up. Also, when you love someone, say it to him/ her. :D Let them know you have feelings and how important they are to you for tommorrow may never come. :( Yes, it is a reality we have to face in this world as no one can predict our life tommorrow.

When both you and your partner are happy, tell it to them to let them know how you honestly feel and that you appreciate your moment with them. Happiness can never be bought or received with gifts but is a natural feeling that comes from satisfaction and inner gratitude towards the presence of each other.Sometimes the little things that you do can make that special someone really happy. To be honest this what matters to me. :P Buying an expensive diamond ring for your partner is not a sign of how much you love her but should be a sign of how much your partner means to you.

Having said all this, cherish these moments. There may come a time when your partner may not be around with you for some reason. That is the time you are gonna feel so upset and F up! You may realize that you could have done better but it is too late. You would have missed those moments that are lost forever and will never repeat in time. We only live life once! Cherish your moment with your partner. Ensure you did the best of your ability you could in that relationship. See the big picture in the relationship and not some minor argument; argument over who will win the next U.S. presidential elections? Lol!

Some people may have already realized this post in their lives while this could be eye-openers to the others to find meaning in their relationship. I am not an expert at this topic but as most people know me I take pride in seeing people happy.

See the big picture...

I can't deny the fact that humans, how intelligent we are in comparison to other animals in the animal kingdom, we tend to be very narrow at times about certain aspects of life. I mean these aspects of life are of course important to us, hence, our desire to worry and be concerned about them. It's only human to feel that way!

People worry about money, car, house, food, health, work, love, kids etc.

Yes, all these components are essential to us and we are dependable on them towards sustaining an equilibrium in our lives.

The fact that I mentioned food above is because of my recent awareness of the scarceness in food in countries like Ethiopia base on my old edition of Time magazine. It just shows how there are still people in this world who are dependant on simple things like clean food, water and proper health plans. They rely on dontations from richer nations to keep them and their kids alive. As you read this, try to imagine a 2 year old kid with a bloated belly(not fat) but as a result of malnutrition.

Back to the topic of seeing the big picture, we narrow our thoughts on this one aspect / component of life, that may squeeze the fun and self contentment in us. All we think about is the problem and how we gonna solve it, when and how. Like I said, we wouldn't worry for nothing if it was not important to us so but atleast we realized and are made aware that there is a problem.

But on seeing this as part of our life, look at the big picture.

There are so many things that we should be thankful and blessed about. For example in Malaysia, most of us have jobs(although we may not like them) but it helps to pay bills, care for loved ones and to reward ourselves as part of enjoying the beauty and goodness of life. We should be thankful for the achievements we have made like having one of the tallest towers in the world, make our own cars (although may not be comparable to international standards) etc. Take a look around.

Close an eye on that component of life that bothers you and kills the living life out of you.

A few days back, after dropping Ruby home, I took Sg Pinang to get home. I was forced to slow down my car as there was this moto roda tiga / moto org cacat. I followed the motorbike as I guess it was heading on the same path as me.

I noticed the pillion. She was a spestic lady riding behind either her husband, dad or brother. She was barely clinging on to the male rider and being a paranoia I was afraid she may just loose balance and fall to be rolled over by a Myvi.

I could not help but notice she and the partner were smiling and talking so nicely. It looked like they enjoyed the day, the moto ride or their company together. I realized that even though there are problems in life, seeing the bigger picture and the happiness that we are blessed with, life takes a whole different toll ; life looks brighter and we tend to look forward to it.

It can be difficult and stressful to have problems but we should see the other parts of our lives that we are comfortable with and be thankful. Atleast there is something in life that we should be happy about and be proud of.

Problems are inevitable but it depends how you accept it, work around it or try to avoid it.

We should not over-stress when facing problems but to accept them and not to run away from them. Running away from problems does not make us look any less macho. We are just lieing to ourselves that we are perfect and giving ourselves false expectations that there are no problems. Identify the problem from the root! Consult if lost and assure others when others are lost. Seek the truth not think the truth!

It's best to handle them heads on and to not retreat to our comfort zones when there is a problem. Be there and fight it out! My dad always reminds me; when the going get tough, the tuff get going. Give your best and make a difference. Learn from problems as problems make life more interesting and we would have acquired the experience and wisdom to address them should they reoccur in the future, God forbid.

I know it's difficult to follow or to learn anything of substance from this post as we are only human. Atleast, with this sharing we may realize the bigger picture in life!